Chronically Unhappy People Are As Toxic As The Plague: Are You One?
We all have bad days, but chronic unhappiness is toxic. Not only for those around you but especially for you. No one wants to live an unhappy life, so why not change? The researcher at the University of California Sonja Lyubomirsky says that "40 percent of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change." This means that there is hope for all of us.
So, what creates unhappiness? Your beliefs, attitude, behavior choices and the way you see the world. Of course, we all have moments of unhappiness, but there are certain traits and habits that chronically unhappy people do on a daily basis.
So, how do you know if you are one of these unhappy people? We have listed 10 characteristics and habits that can help you identify if you are one of them or not.
1. They live a pessimistic life. Unhappy people see their glass half empty instead of half full. Everything they do and everything they say is typically negative. They are less likely to find fun in the challenges of life and are definitely not those who laugh at their mistakes.
2. They are critical. Those who are unhappy judge other people and make harder judgments about themselves. If they are wrong, they hit inside themselves instead of accepting the fact that they all have flaws and are human.
3. They worry constantly. People who are unhappy always assume that something bad is going to happen to them, so they live a life of constant worry and fear. Instead of thinking what could work out, they continually think about what could go wrong.
4. They avoid whatever it is that scares them. Everything that is challenging or outside of your comfort zone will be avoided at all costs. Unhappy people are not up to the challenge of taking risks. This means that there is no counseling, no self-help books, no personal improvement.
5. They cling to grudges. If someone raped them somewhere, you can bet that an unhappy person will maintain that hatred for life. Forgiveness and forgetting are not words commonly used in your vocabulary.
6. They fill their conversations with gossip and complaints. The unhappy life in the past. The difficulties of life are your conversation of choice. Gossip about other people to feel better.
7. They believe that most people can not be trusted. Unhappy people think that everyone wants to get them, even their loved ones. They assume that strangers cannot be trusted too. This behavior closes the door to all possible new connections and limits the possibilities of making new friends.
8. They try to control every outcome of their life. Of course, it is good to try to achieve your goals, but in the end, there is very little control over what life gives us on a daily basis. Unhappy people try to control every result and throw a dramatic tantrum when they change their plans.
9. They are jealous and compare themselves with others. Those who are unhappy believe that there is not enough goodness in the world. This leads to the resentment of others. Instead of praising other people for their unique talents, they look at them with envy.
10. They are victims. You know when a person is not happy because they will constantly complain that life is hard and that the universe hates them. Unhappy people tend to see themselves as victims in life. They are always complaining about difficult situations instead of finding a solution.
If you think you can be a chronically unhappy person, the good news is that you can change. With a positive attitude and the guidance of a coach, you can start living a happier life.
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